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How (Not To) Fight

I picked up a little book at my daughter’s house last week while riding out the ice storm and long power outage here in Oregon. The author was Thich Nhat Hanh, a beloved peacemaker. The title was How to Fight. * How can that be?? Thay…

Children, Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Can Divorce be Easy?

First, a couple of definitions: Amiable Divorce: You discuss, you negotiate, and you agree about children/parenting, support and finances/property. Difficult Divorce: You tried, but you can't agree on some or all of the…

Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Top 10 Tips to have a Successful First Virtual Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Session

Location - It’s important to find a private, quiet space where you can focus and hear without too much distraction. Sometimes, it’s the car, and other times, a den or patio works well. Try to think about best areas for reception, good…

Children, What's New?

What Is A Good Co-Parenting Relationship?

The effects of a divorce on the children involved can be detrimental to their development into healthy adults. A 2019 study published in the journal World Psychology revealed that while most children of divorce go on to lead well-adjusted lives,…

Coaching, Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Bridges’ Divorce Coaches

A divorce coach is a mental health professional – often a psychologist or an LCSW – who assists the client to effectively move through the divorce. The “divorce coach” is unique to collaborative law. There is an emotional component…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

Negotiating with Your Partner: Look Ahead, Not Backwards

A colleague recently shared some training materials from Bill Eddy, founder of High Conflict Institute. This article shares some of Bill’s wisdom on how to help resolve conflicts by making effective proposals. Setting…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

How to Avoid an Expensive Divorce

If you want to avoid an expensive divorce, the biggest piece of advice is to figure out a way the two of you can work together. If you go to mediation and or use the Collaborative Divorce process, you can find agreement the issues without the…

Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Retirement Basics for Divorce – Part 2 – Intel Plans and related benefits, as of September 2020

Intel is one of Oregon’s largest employers and has several different retirement benefits for their employees. Here is a list of the different plans that may exist (depending on hire date and position within the company): Intel 401(k)…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

Retirement Basics for Divorce in Oregon: Part 1 – Pension Plans

Here are some tips for information gathering and decision making to get started in the area of retirement benefits in an Oregon divorce. It is very important to consult with a family law or financial professional in your area, and this article…

Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Choosing between Mediation and Collaborative Law

When you go through the divorce process, you will need to address all of the same issues regardless of the process you choose. When you are choosing between mediation and Collaborative Law, you are choosing how you want to discuss those issues. There…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

How to Divorce with Dignity and Respect

Television shows and movies often depict divorces as being highly contentious. Each party does his or her best to make the other one pay, both financially and emotionally. In real life, it does not have to be that way. Many couples are now doing…

Coaching, Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

FAQ – Winter 2020

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) I’m worried that my partner might not be fair to me in the divorce process. How can we try to work together in a peaceful process but still make sure I am taking care of myself? Divorce is…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

COVID-19, Energy Conservation and Divorce Settlement

COVID-19 is guiding us to see inefficiencies and find new ways to help ourselves and others. We hear a lot about energy efficiency in cars and conserving fuel usage. But we don’t think as much about energy as our life force and conserving…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

“So you’re trying to get divorced, and now you’re both working from home.”

Our new life, sheltering in place is in full swing. Oregonians have been at it awhile and divorcing couples and families are experiencing a wide range of circumstances, challenges and perks. Maybe you’re both still working, just one of…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

What should I know about divorce during COVID-19 in Oregon?

Is it possible to start and complete a divorce during social distancing and “shelter in place?” orders? Short answer is, yes. 100% of a mediated, collaborative, or uncontested “kitchen table” divorce can be done remotely through phone,…

Children, Coaching, Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Giving Thanks After a Split

When you’re a child of divorce, holiday celebrations can come with a lot of baggage. Check out this first-person article about new Thanksgiving “traditions” (it's older, but still appropriate). [click the turkey] "On…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

The Energy of Money and Divorce

Many people are paralyzed by fear when contemplating a divorce. Most often the fear is about money. It's either a fight, flight or freeze response. But there is another possibility, and that’s empowerment. That’s the power created by two…

Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

There’s Only One Side in a Collaborative Divorce

As a Mediator and Collaborative attorney, I only work with clients who want to avoid court and resolve their issues themselves, on a mutually fair basis. This gives me a window from which to see and hear many interesting, touching stories of…

Collaborative Divorce, What's New?

Collaborative Strengths

Strengths of Collaborative Divorce One of the strengths of Collaborative Divorce is that it permits ownership and control of settlement process by the people most impacted by the settlement - the couple! The process responds to YOUR agenda,…

Children, Collaborative Divorce, Mediation, What's New?

Divorce, Holidays and COVID-19

Co-parenting after a breakup is difficult to begin with. For many families, the holidays are an emotionally charged time and add another layer of stress. On top of that, this year parents are still dealing with COVID-19, including concerns of…

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Our full name is Bridges Collaborative Divorce Solutions.

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IACP

Bridges Divorce is a recognized practice group within the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals [IACP].

As a multidisciplinary practice group, we serve couples and families throughout Oregon and Southwest Washington.

IACP is an international community of legal, mental health and financial professionals working in concert to create client-centered processes for resolving conflict.

The mission of the IACP is to transform the way families resolve conflict by building a global community of Collaborative Practice and consensual dispute resolution professionals.