How do you “bridge” the chasm between you?
As obvious as they are, the elements of a constructive divorce become obstructed from view by the emotional intensity of the experience. It is all too easy to stop caring about what happens and start justifying destructive behavior. It is easy to get trapped in spiraling hostilities.
Copy this, print it out and paste it on your mirror (from “Between Love and Hate” by Lois Gold, pp. 55-56).
- Take responsibility for regulating your behavior, regardless of what your partner does.
- Separate your emotions from the decision making process.
- Separate your job as a parent from the conflicts with your partner.
- Accept responsibility for your contribution to the break-up.
- Learn to understand your partner’s viewpoint.
- Be willing to negotiate, compromise and cooperate in resolving your differences.
- Make a commitment to an equitable and non-adversarial settlement process.
To learn more about peaceful divorce, contact one of our Professionals at Bridges Collaborative Divorce Solutions.
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Dona Cullen, Attorney at Law / Mediator
Certified Divorce Financial Analyst
5200 Meadows Rd., Ste. 150
Lake Oswego, OR 97035
503-867-1763
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